The idea came one morning. I don’t know from where but for a moment I had in mind the photographs of perfect-looking models and celebrities in today’s magazines. They have on the right dress, the perfect makeup, the stunning jewellery, and most of all the sculpted body to match. They are beautiful and whether we resist it or not, we girls can’t help but think (even if only for a split second), how we wish we looked like that even by just a bit.
Of course, not you. You know better that these images were photoshop-ed, to trim away some fat, brighten her complexion, or even improve the color of her outfit. Moreover, that pore-less skin might also be the effect of great lighting and the right makeup. That perfect bod might be a combination of starvation and few sessions at the slimming spa. That smile could be fake. Then again maybe not. But that’s not the point.
The point is, once again, whether we like it or not, something in us gets triggered. That innate desire to be beautiful gets stirred up and all of a sudden feels like it needs to do something, if only to become even just a bit more feature-worthy in a magazine – tell me this isn’t you.
It may be a compulsive need for some, while it’s just a subtle desire for others. I need that lipstick. Those shoes are a must. I need foundation to keep me confident! That dress will make me desirable. I should wear the same watch so others will know how stylish I am…
Then we read the article beside the photograph and we’re lured to yet another success story that we crave to have. It makes us wonder why ours is not as glamorous or the ‘rags to riches’ type. And yet there’s another article that talks about confidence and being ones self and how we can succeed in life if we’ll just add a little more positivity and good intentions on how we do things. But when did these advices actually bring the radical change we’re longing for?
The idea came one morning. I think I know from where because for more than two years now we can’t help but want to do something about this. All that is not what real beauty is about. Somebody has to redefine beauty. Somebody has to tell our girls the truth. That beauty is not defined by the color of their skin or hair, the smallness of their pores, the flawlessness of their complexion, or the texture of their tresses. That confidence should not be determined by the brand of their shoes, their adherence to fashion trends, or the number of boys who look their way.
Before I go on, let me just make one thing clear. We are all for wearing stylish clothes, stunning makeup, and a healthy body. But in the event that these garments fail, it is not true that one can no longer be beautiful, and more so not feel beautiful.
Beauty is something you (and I) were born with. It is not just a desire, but an innate gift that’s meant to blossom as one grows from childhood to womanhood. It is something that radiates from you brighter and brighter still, the more you discover what you were born with, how you can hone it into something great, and who it was made to reflect.
We are most beautiful when we stay true to who we are as we keep our eyes on who made us what we are. But who will tell us that we are beautiful? The media say one thing but make us believe the other.: You are beautiful but you need to DO THIS to be accepted. Just be yourself BUT follow this advice so you can belong…
Is this really what we want our young women to listen to? What are your thoughts on beauty? What makes you confident in who you are? Tell us. And maybe help us tell the world.
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Riz on behalf of the rad radiant team
“Those who look to him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame.” – King David